Siobhan "Chevy" Allen
Mama, Cowgirl, Coach
Hello and welcome to Get Gritty!
I'm Chevy. As a Horsewoman (and Farm Wife and Mama to two little cowboys!) I understand that horsemanship isn't just a hobby. It is a lifestyle!
I understand the unique struggles that horsewomen face because I face them too! Whether we have had horses all our life, or enjoyed riding as a kid and are just getting back into riding after some time off, all of us face the same struggles. From juggling the demands of our careers (to pay for our horse habit!), to taking care of our families, farming, and other activities. For most of us, our horse time is our "me" time, when we can relax and live our dreams.
So when we feel anxious, nervous or fearful along our horsemanship journey, riding isn't fun anymore. And that is the point, isn't it? If it isn't fun anymore, then why should we invest the money, the time, and the effort that it takes to achieve our horsemanship dreams?
I have felt afraid in the saddle. I have felt nervous and anxious. I have experienced what it feels like to not be confident.
After my first son was born, I was terrified in the saddle. And no matter how hard I tried, I couldn't make myself relax. It wasn't that I didn't have horse knowledge or horsemanship skills-before my kids were born I trained wild mustangs for Mustang Makeovers! It wasn't that my horses were unbroke or naughty-they were quiet, gentle ranch horses. The problem was all in my own head. And it was so frustrating! I wanted to be able to lope across a field to gather our cattle. I wanted to be able to relax and ride down the trail with my husband. I wanted to be able to show my horses again.
That is what led me to study mental toughness and positive psychology. Because I love horses, and imagining a life where I didn't ride was not an option! So I began my own journey to rebuild my self-confidence, to overcome the negative self-talk and doubts. And I learned that most of these problems were all in my head, and that by mastering simple mental skills I could again ride with confidence. I could again ride into a show pen feeling focused instead of nervous.
As I learned and practiced these mental skills, I realized that horses and life are the same. By focusing on what I needed to do to feel more positive with my horse, I also started to feel more positive with my life in general. It is a cycle-if our life is in balance, if we as a person are more positive, then our horsemanship will improve too.
Along my journey to confidence, I also discovered that I wasn't alone. That other cowgirls like me faced the same challenges and lack of confidence-whether it was due to injury, having a family, or being out of the saddle for awhile. And just knowing that I wasn't alone was so healing for me, and I knew that helping others regain their confidence was part of my purpose along my own horsemanship journey. So I studied Life Coaching, and became certified as a Confidence Coach and Master Coach through the Transformation Academy, so that I could improve my coaching skills and make the road to confidence smoother for you than it was for me, struggling by myself.
That is why I started Get Gritty-to share with you the process that helped me change from anxious and overwhelmed and uncertain about my horsemanship journey to confident and calm and excited to enter the show pen. The steps that I share with my coaching clients are the same steps that I took, the same skills that I learned, all proven effective by the science of positive psychology, and put together in an easy to follow, step-by-step process to empower you to be more confident as taught in my coaching certification courses.
If I can overcome these struggles to be more positive in my life, find the fun along my horsemanship journey, and be a confident cowgirl again, so can you! Because horses are more than a hobby. It's a lifestyle. And to succeed and be happier along this bumpy ride, we need to get gritty.
Meet the horses behind the horsewoman. Their job duties include being my equine life coaches, partners in working cattle, team mates in the show pen, and of course babysitting my rowdy kids.
Friendly, Forgiving, Funny. He is the first one to the gate and enjoys quiet walks up the field road. Thinks he is a person. Breezy is Chevy's main horse and show pen partner.
Sensitive, Action-Taker, Endless Work Ethic. Zeb's choice when the cows are out. Not a fan of spa days, prefers her mane messy, and is convinced that reining is a speed event.
Inquisitive, Careful, Spunky. Reva is a BLM Mustang that Chevy trained in 2009 for the Midwest Mustang Makeover, and she rejoined Chevy's herd 10 years later. Colin has claimed her as his horse.
Dependable, Quiet, Steady. The Perfect Pony for our Rowdy Little Cowboys. Tolerates pretty much anything Colton and Colin can think of doing horseback.
Adventurous. Brave. Fun. Don't let his size fool you, Little Foot is always ready to explore. He is Colton's buddy, and together they roam the front yard and fields. And yes, he is a mini mule.
In riding a horse we borrow freedom.